It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it….
Think about it. How many times have you been hurt by someone, spouse or not, when it wasn’t about the actual words they said, but they way they said it?
And on the contrary, how many times have you hurt someone’s feelings by saying something in a tone that maybe wasn’t the best tone to use?
It happens. We’re human. We’ve all done it, and we’ll all do it again.
BUT, today I wanted to throw out a little challenge about how we speak to our spouses. Because it really isn’t always about what we say, but HOW we say it.
I’m by no means an expert on this, but I thought that together, we could try to be more aware of how we speak to our spouses moving forward. Let’s take a step back, and think before we speak…
What is my tone of voice? Am I kind, loving, respectful? Or, am I impatient, snappy, and demeaning?
Is it something that I need to address now, or can it wait for a better time (and a better tone)?
Is this a hard conversation where I have the potential to really hurt my spouse? How can I bring it up in a way that doesn’t leave him or her feeling like he/she needs to be on the defense? How do I share it in a respectful and loving manner?
So here we go! Share this with a friend who might need to hear it!
And these pics… from a 50th Wedding Anniversary! Now that is something to celebrate!